But, I’m a Diamond Member!

If you’re in service-based work—coaching, hospitality, customer service, consulting, design, healing, or support—you’ve probably bent over backwards for a customer or client. You return their emails quickly. You show up prepared. You adjust your schedule, listen carefully, and deliver your best. You bring empathy, patience, and respect. Why? Because they matter.

Here’s the big question: Do you treat yourself the same way?

I worked in the hospitality industry for over 20 years. I always put work and clients before myself. I wanted to ensure customers and clients had an amazing experience within the hotel, a seamless event, and amazing cuisine. I sacrificed weekends and holidays for my job because an amazing experience would, hopefully, ensure that I gained a devoted client. 

Now that I’m older (ahem) and slightly wiser, I had an epiphany that I should be treating myself with the same services, or in other words, RESPECT.

Respect Starts Within

Self-respect means noticing your limits and honoring them. It means taking breaks, saying no when needed, and forgiving yourself for being human.

That same respect belongs to you. Self-respect means:

• Acknowledging your limits

• Taking breaks without guilt

• Speaking to yourself with kindness

Honor Your Boundaries

We often create strong, healthy boundaries with clients to protect their time and our own. But with ourselves, boundaries can get blurry. We check emails at midnight. We skip meals to power through. We say yes to things that drain us.

Create internal agreements the same way you’d set up a client contract. Commit to stopping work at a certain time. Block out time for rest, joy, and creative thinking. Follow through, even when no one’s watching.

You probably have great boundaries with clients: time slots, payment terms, and expectations.

But what about your boundaries?

• Are you working late into the night?

• Skipping meals?

• Saying yes when your whole body is saying no?

  Healthy boundaries with yourself are just as important. Create clear agreements—like office hours, unplugged weekends, or scheduled self-care—and honor them the way you would with any client contract.

  Give Yourself the Full-Service Experience

You go the extra mile for your clients, right? You prepare for meetings, research ideas, and send encouraging follow-ups. Why not do that for yourself? What fun amenities do you provide for yourself? 

• Eat for nutrition and eat slowly

• Practice self-care (simple things like treating yourself to a face mask, exercise, walking in nature, visiting with friends and family)

• Engage in a hobby

• Spend time with a pet

Prep your workspace to make it welcoming. Set goals and celebrate progress. Talk to yourself like a coach would: “You’ve got this. One step at a time. That was a big win.” Your inner dialogue matters—it can either drain you or build you up.

The Ripple Effect

Treating yourself with the same care you give clients doesn’t make you selfish—it makes you sustainable. When you’re well-nourished, well-rested, and mentally supported, you serve others better. You’re more present. More creative. More resilient.

This isn’t about perfection—it’s about equity. If your business is built on showing up fully for others, you need to show up fully for yourself, too.

Final Thought:

If you’re not sure where to start, ask:
If I were my client, what would I need right now?

Then, permit yourself to receive it. You are a Diamond Member of your life.